The Power of Team and Togetherness
Last week, thousands and thousands of women came together for a match all over the world to express their opinions and make their voices heard. Whether you supported them or not, what struck me was how a few very determined people could garner so much support all over the world to start a movement of that magnitude. Over the years, we’ve always been given the impression that women are always trying to pull each other down. As seen in the struggle between working and stay at home moms, business owners versus employees or older moms versus younger moms. It seems like there’s always been an issue to divide women. Last week proved the status quo wrong. Women, men and children came together to make a difference. That is the value of team and togetherness. That is the spirit women in general should embrace. We should realize the power we have when we pull together as a team and teach our teens to do the same.
1. The Value of Team
Society loves to talk about the self-made man or woman. We all admire people who have seemingly risen above all their trials and tribulations to become extremely successful. They however will be the first to admit it was not through their own singular effort. There were always people behind the scenes, encouraging them or working with them. Just think about it. Michael Jordan is indeed the greatest basketball player but he never won a game on his own. Until he learned to play as a team with all his team mates, he had a lot of great statistics but no championships. Team is important. We as parents should realize the importance of team and teach our teens to value the contributions others make in their lives. Their team consists of the teachers who help mold them, their coaches, and of course their friends. Teens must realize they don’t live in isolation and learn to value the team they come in contact with every day.
2. Avoiding Negative Teams
Last week, J Loren Norris talked to us about how we become like the people we choose to surround ourselves with. Nowhere is it more important to teach children the value of having a good team, than in the teen years. Our teens can truly become who they hang out with. Parents can attest to how their teens change, once they begin hanging out with “the wrong crowd.” Sometimes teens get in trouble from being in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong team. And then there is the mob mentality when teens in the wrong crowd or team forget their basic human values and go all out behaving badly, in ways they invariably regret. Even a gang, is a team, but is it a team we want our teens to join? It is so important to teach teens to choose the right team. Help them write down their plans and their goals. Yes, there is no certainty they will achieve what they wrote but at least it becomes a roadmap towards where they want to go to and that makes them less likely to choose the wrong team.
3. The head of the team
In most successful companies, there is a president or CEO, who is the leader. This person has the vision and surrounds himself with a great team and together they succeed. Families who have a great team leader also do well. Teens are more likely to succeed when they have a role model they can look up to. The obvious leader would be their parent. What about the teens who are being brought up in a society where there are no obvious leaders? Fortunately there are so many clubs and even individuals like family friends or extended family members who are willing to step in and take up that role. In this social media teens can go online and “virtually” visit other countries or read up on successful people in society and choose to emulate them. I’ve met some teens who learned the value of team from their friends who were growing up in a more stable environment. It is also invaluable to teach teens the importance of having God as the head of their team. Teach them to have faith and put God first in their lives and even when they go off to college or make their way in life, they may falter or stray but will invariably come back to the most important team of all, their faith and family.
In the midst of all the chaos and challenges that life sometimes brings us, it is so necessary to teach our teens the value of team and togetherness. We should emphasize the importance of having the right team, a team that will lift them up, and not tear them down. A team that will eventually be crowned with success because all the parts work well together. Teens should learn the qualities and values that make them good team members and how to choose the right teams to belong to. Some teens will become good team leaders. They learn the qualities of good leadership from whom they choose to associate with, what they read and from the adult role models in their lives. And of course they must choose the follow the greatest leader of all time, our Lord Jesus who has promised to lead us and direct us if we will let him lead our team.
As Helen Keller said, “Alone we can do so little. Together we can do so much.”
Team is important!