Love is to valentine as sunshine to roses. Love is patient and kind.
She was radiantly happy and ready, waiting anxiously for the doorbell to ring. As soon as it rang, she ran to the door. He smiled and swept her up in his arms, ready for their first date. He treated her like a princess. She could not contain her joy, gigging and enjoying every minute of it. The love of her life was patient and kind.
Isn’t this every girl’s dream, and I was so happy when I saw the lucky young lady on You-tube, going on her first date with her dad. She couldn’t have been more than three or four years old, but there was no denying how special she felt. The joy of knowing how truly loved you are.
As Valentine’s day approaches, we look forward to celebrating with our loved ones. There is no shortage of the gifts of chocolate, jewelry, and of course that special evening out. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could celebrate our loved ones year round, and show them how truly loved they are.
1. Love is patient and kind.
That is the love most people have for each other when they first fall in love. You can always tell when people have just fallen in love with each other. There is so much tenderness, patience and kindness. Your loved one can do no wrong. For some people, they never lose that tenderness, their love simply matures. Unfortunately sometimes with the stressors of life, we forget to be kind to each other. We are always in a hurry. Parents forget to show kindness to their teens. They are impatient when they make mistakes. It’s time to take a step back and make an effort to be kind and patient to our loved ones, to take just a little extra time to show them that we care.
2. Love is not envious or boastful. It is not proud.
Another way to show love is to be happy for our loved ones, and share in their joy. I’ve seen families who are so competitive towards each other that they can’t even support each other in their achievements. Some parents on the other hand are quite boastful about their children’s achievements to other people. There is a big difference between being happy for our kid’s accomplishments and being boastful. Always celebrate your family’s successes, but do so with humility and gratitude, and others will genuinely share in your joy.
3. Love does not dishonor others and is not easily angered.
Even as we parents show love and respect to each other, our teens are watching. They will treat their loved ones the same way we treat each other. Kids raised in abusive families tend to be abusers themselves. We must teach our teens to allow others to have opinions contrary to theirs. Loud shouting matches, or belittling each other does not show love. Love is gentle and not easily angered.
4. Love does not keep a record of wrongs.
How many times are we quick to remind each other of our failings, of the broken promises, and all the hurtful things we said last year. Children are so quick to forgive and ask for forgiveness and they definitely don’t keep a record of wrongs but with age, it seems to get that much harder to forgiven and let go and move on. Unfortunately keeping a record of wrongs hurts you more than anyone else. True love let’s go of the past. That goes for loving yourself too. After all, no one is perfect. It works both ways.
5. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres.
I love this verse. Love never gives up. I love it when parents protect and hope for the best for their kids no matter what. Nothing warms my heart more than seeing a parent who never gave up on her child, but believed in them even when the whole world was telling them there was no hope. Gabby Douglas’ mom believed and persevered even when her child was ill. We all fell in love with Amy Purdy on dancing with the stars. She learned to walk again, and dance, despite having no legs, because her parents believed in her, supported her and never gave up on her. Spouses and loved ones hope and persevere through sickness and hard financial times. Love never gives up, it never fails.
So even as we celebrate Valentine’s day, let’s make each day after that a celebration. Let’s love and appreciate each other by being patient, kind and thoughtful to family members and friends. I truly encourage all the parents out there to show their teens what love is, by being tender, compassionate and passionate towards each other. By living life with zest and enthusiasm and forgiving ourselves and our loved ones.
Love life, and live it fully.
Have an awesome and joy filled Valentine’ day
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV