In 2016 parents should start fresh training teens how to manage health and wealth.
As 2015 rapidly draws to an end, most people are already thinking of a fresh start in 2016. I was talking to my daughter over the weekend and she said, “Mom, my friend Stephanie keeps encouraging me to write down my goals.” Of course, I had to remind her that I had also been asking her to write them down. It’s important though not to give up on 2015. We still have the wonder of Christmas ahead of us and even as we prepare for Christmas, it’s important to slow down and reminisce over the past year and prepare for the coming year
Below are a few suggestions to think about.
1. C.E.O. relationships
This term was used on the hit TV show “Blackish.” It stands for “Christmas, Easter Only” churchgoers. As funny as this sounds it really is true, not only for churchgoers but for our relationships in general. There are families who are so busy during the year that they really only connect on the holidays. We really should take the time to invest in our relationship with God, to build a strong faith, which will sustain us through the year, in good times and the not so good times. It does us no good to have a C.E.O. relationship with God and it certainly does us no good to have that relationship with our spouses and children either. As the year draws to a close, let’s reminisce on what was good about our relationships this year, and determine to take time out of our busy lives to reconnect with our spouses and to develop a rich and rewarding relationship with our teens in the coming year. Take time to look at them, touch them, talk and listen to them, and show them how really important they are to you.
2. Health goals
The holiday season is a time of merry making and eating. Most of us, after gorging ourselves on food during Thanksgiving decide that “Well, the year is almost over, I’ll enjoy myself for the rest of the year and start again next year. It does not have to be so. So you over-ate at Thanksgiving so what. Forget about it and embrace each new day and decide to do better. It all starts with the decision to be healthy. It’s important to write down the goals you have for your health and well-being. Decide to start an exercise program for yourself and your children. Decide to incorporate a few vegetables and fruits in the diet for the family and work your way up to eating a lot more of them, as you learn new ways to enjoy a healthier lifestyle. Look up new recipes. If you need help by all means enroll the family in a gym or fitness club. If you can afford it or are so inclined join a Weight loss program. There are so many different programs out there and most of them work but you need to come up with what works best for you and your family. For teens, Kurbo health coaching is an excellent resource and Megan Lyons of the Lyons Share Wellness Program is an excellent health coach as well. The most important thing is not to give up on the rest of the year. Remember the health goals you made at the beginning of the year and stick with them. You’ll be in better shape literally to start the New Year.
3. Finances and Money
This is a good time to take stock of your finances. A lot of families get so caught in the frenzy of Christmas shopping that they spend much more money than they ever intended to spend and start the New Year off in debt and in a bad mood. Families spend upwards of $200 to $500 on Christmas presents for each child. The interesting thing is the kids play with the presents for maybe a week and quickly get bored with the gifts and look for new forms of entertainment. We really need to take stock of the lessons we are teaching our teens, when we spend money we don’t have to make them happy. I really do believe that even as the year draws to an end, we should be honest with ourselves and stick to our spending plans. We should learn to live within our means, and teach our teens to do the same. Our teens should be taught money management. They should be taught about wants and needs and how to plan and save towards their financial goals. Financial responsibility starts with us parents. Our teens will do what they see as do and not what we tell them to do. A great program to teach teens about how to respect and handle money is Financial Peace University for teens.
As the year draws to a close and we prepare for the coming year, one of the biggest lessons we can teach our teens is how to take control of their minds. We can teach them to write all the goals they want but if they don’t believe that these goals are possible then nothing is going to happen. It is important for them to realize that they have the most control over how they think and how they choose to respond to what life throws at them. Help them develop a deeper relationship with God the Father and with you. Encourage them to write down their goals and discuss how they can make these goals a reality for 2016. Let’s look back at 2015 and learn from our mistakes. Let’s rejoice and give thanks for all our achievements, and realize that in the Next Year we are capable of bigger and better things. Start working on being healthy now. Teach your teens money management. Prepare them for a brighter and happier 2016.
“I used to have this toy, a magic slate. You wrote or drew on it and then, just by pulling up the plastic cover, everything you did disappeared and you could start new. Maybe everyone feels that on New Year’s Eve: They can pull up the magic sheet and rewrite their lives.” ― V.C. Andrews