Dads are really important
In the 21st century where women are almost able to do everything men do, including choosing to have babies as single moms, one may think dads don’t matter. I dare to say though dads are really important. I’m not in any way implying moms are not important. Moms have always been the backbone of the family, raising and supporting and loving their children. Single moms have done an excellent job raising children to achieve great heights but I do believe dads bring something extra into a child’s life which is equally important.
1. Role of dads in a son’s life
I watched an episode of the Steve Harvey show in which a single mom was having problems raising her sons. Steve Harvey said, you can teach your son everything, but you can’t teach him how to be a man. Boys learn how to be men by observing their dads. How does dad treat mom? How does dad treat the child? The relationship between a son and dad is very different from one between a son and his mom. They learn about being strong and being the head of the household and they also learn that it’s alright for men to have emotions and even cry when the situation warrants it. A man who is respectful, full of honor and who treats others in his life with respect and dignity imparts great values to his sons. Dads complement moms in teaching their sons about faith and family values. They teach them the value of hard work and integrity both at home and at work. Parents working together are able to teach the value of discipline and respect for others. Boys are so proud to show off their dads and it’s very important we maintain this relationship even if unfortunately the marriage or relationship breaks up.
2. Role of dads in a daughter’s life
Don’t we all love to watch Stephen Curry’s relationship with his daughter on the basketball court? I remember Michael Ealy being interviewed after he had his daughter and he talked about how special she was. Daughters have a special relationship with their dads. I’ve been to many weddings where dads have been overcome with emotion as they give their daughters away to another man. Dads are the first protector of their daughters. They teach their daughters how they should be treated by the men in their lives. If dads respect and honor mom, their daughters learn women should be treated with honor. If you love and respect your daughter, she will expect no less from her future boyfriends. This relationship is extremely important. There is a YouTube video in which dad is fixing his daughter’s hair, and the daughter is encouraging him and praising him as he goes along, in a very soothing voice. As TD Jakes said, this interaction sets the stage for this daughter and teaches her how to encourage her man in future. It is great for moms and daughters to have a special relationship and it’s equally important for dads to have a special bond with their daughters.
3. So what if dad is absent?
Unfortunately, there are certain circumstances in which dads are missing from the home. My siblings and I were raised by a single mom because our dad died when we were all very young. Dads are sometimes absent from the home because they simply chose to leave. Sometimes parents’ divorce or dad has to work in another state or is serving in the service. Not only is it more difficult for mom to run the family by herself but often times the children don’t understand why dad is absent. It is important in circumstances where dad is available to get him involved in the care of the children. No matter what your relationship with dad is, moms really have to make an effort to not let this affect dad’s relationship with his children. He is still the dad and children want and need their dad. If dad is absent because of death, or in cases where dad is abusive and has been ordered to stay away, it is important to have another adult in the child’s life. This could be a trusted and respected uncle, coach, teacher or family friend. The key word here is “trusted.” Moms should never leave their children with an adult they hardly know. Children have been abused because they were left with an adult who was not dependable or principled. The last thing a mom wants is to have their child traumatized in their attempt to get them a trusted role model.
In my opinion, dads are really important when raising children. Dads teach their sons how to love women and treat them respectfully. They teach them about family values and integrity. They teach their daughters how to relate to men and show them they are to be respected and valued by their significant others.
Dads are very important when it comes to raising children and they together with mom should be present in their children’s lives and teach them the principles of faith, discipline, love and integrity. Enjoy the blessing of fatherhood, it is indeed a gift from the Lord. Take time to leave a lasting legacy for your children by being the best father you can be.