Back to School
As unbelievable as it seems the summer holidays are just about over and soon schools will be back in session. While some kids are looking forward to going back to school, others may not be quite so thrilled. Whatever their sentiments, many are filled with anxiety especially as they will be in a new grade, maybe even a new school, rather nerve racking no doubt. Not surprisingly, parents can be just as fazed if not even more when the holidays are over. Preparing for school can be much less daunting when you carefully list all that has to be done. Below are some suggestions to help ease the transition process. The first will be discussed now. Over the next couple of weeks we will discuss the others in detail.
•Research all necessary information for school and prepare accordingly.
•Deal with all issues concerned with after school activities.
•Be sure to have in place alternative plans for the unexpected such as school closings and sudden illness.
1. Keep a constant dialogue going between you and your teen about their expectations and anxieties. Be sure to listen carefully and read between the lines. Teens are not always vocal with their feelings. Dwelling on the positive, remind them about all the fun that being back in school will bring such as spending time with friends, making new ones, learning new things, participating in activities such as band, sports, dance and talent shows.
2. Do not trivialize their fears. They might shut you out and refuse to share any more with you. Instead, dissect cautiously what their fears are and suggest solutions to handling problems. Encourage them to approach their teachers confidently for help and when necessary to consult the counselor.
3. Contact other parents you know whose kids will be in the same school and whose friendship you welcome for you and your teen. Ask the teens to look out for each other. While you may not be able to choose your teen’s friends, it does no harm to point them in a direction you deem right. With peer pressure being such a controlling force during the teen years, it is a great help when your teen keeps good company.
4. Help your teen get organized. Specific places for specific items saves time wasted in looking for things. Clothes picked out and backpacks ready for school help relive stressful mornings. Planners or calendars are useful tools in laying out the whole picture of activities such as assignment are to be turned in, tests to be taken, sports event, choir practice and the like.
5. Finally make yourself as available as possible especially during the first week. Spend time sharing with them positive experiences about how you or someone you know of overcame anxiety. Just being there for them makes such a difference. Keep current with what is happening in the world of parents and their teens. Below are our new and updated pages.